So in this video you know I would like to just unpack and build upon the ideas that are shared with
you.
In that last clip in the last clip we looked at the the body the spirit and the soul on how all three
are one body and the mind is one the body and the spirit is one and all those people pursuing and looking
for some sort of spiritual experience in life.
I've already got one.
Why.
Because we're spiritual by nature.
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When we are committed to the process of growing and life we are committed to the process of growing
in spirit in our own identity and insight understanding of who we are and who were capable of.
We are committed to the process of knowing our selves.
Remember self awareness comes first.
Self-management comes second so we can only really get effective at self-regulating and managing ourselves
once we are fully aware of ourselves.
So I want to share this slightly different model here and then in the video that follows I'm going to.
And welcome back car and we're gonna have a conversation around this model all right.
This model can give us a basis for a very interesting discussion or conversation with our clients.
Think about when our clients come to us.
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And if you haven't had any claims before don't worry they will do at some point in the future when your
clients come to you they're going come and given voice to the challenges the issues the problems that
they perceive themselves as having and people only ever have a problem in life when they feel like we
have a problem more often than not our problems are always going to be emotional by nature.
Why.
Because when people are content and fulfilled then happy they're content fulfilled and happy and right
positive emotional states.
People don't have a problem with positive emotional states but when people are feeling a little bit
anxious perhaps nervous apprehensive fearful stressed depressed or perhaps panicking about something
they think might happen at some point in the future or something that is going to happen at some point
in the future or they've kind of spiraled out of control when they're down in the pit of despair and
a place of hopelessness helplessness depression sadness all that kind of stuff that's when people want
a little bit of practical help.
So this model actually gives a very very simple framework for dissecting and breaking down people's
issues and challenges by simply allowing us to invite our clients to reflect upon and consider how their
issues are impacting them on five different levels.
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And also how and the client's awareness or lack of awareness is perhaps bringing the problem into existence.
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When we can look at a problem from different perspectives from different angles we can sometimes and
more often than not see things that we didn't previously see.
Sometimes the part that we're actually playing in our own issues and challenges.
So first things first.
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There is much discussion in the world of personal development and self growth talking about things that
are conditions and things that are conditions and when it comes to the Diagnostic Statistical Manual
that I mentioned earlier on.
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The Association of Psychiatry has been kind of you know obviously a combined effort from from from from
the British Association and the American Association is done a great job of them of finding emotional
experiences in life as conditions and illnesses and ailments.
And this has caused a massive massive issue throughout society.
I know it is rife here in the UK where no human be especially young people who go to the doctors you
know haven't experience a little bit of stress and the way end up can medication and speaking to counsellors
and therapists and all the rest of it.
And you know at some point in life I've got to get resilient don't we.
We've got to learn to self moderate and manage ourselves.
Otherwise we're not gonna get anywhere.
So what I'm going to suggest is that our emotions we cannot afford to have them being conditions in
our life.
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But we will have conditions in the physical body.
We will have ailments abnormalities.
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Big difference between physical abnormalities conditions and emotional ailments.
Emotions are just emotions.
All right physical issues and symptoms are physical issues and symptoms.
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But we all experience them all or always won.
So that's how we experience life physically.
Sometimes people have symptoms or conditions as a result of something physical that's good on for them.
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There was a young man that I coached a few years ago and he'd had a stroke right down one side of his
body and this had resulted in him not being able to do some of the things that he really want to do
in life.
Are you playing golf.
He wanted to be Professor no golfer but his physical limitation that he had em was a real issue.
Now his expectation has his goal was to be a professional golfer someday.
But practically on a physical level he just wasn't able to.
You only had one good time that he could use.
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So when he came to me for four chords.
His issue was one of angst he had low confidence and he wanted his expectation his vision for his future
was to be a professional golfer.
But his body was getting in the way very very erratic practically so his physical body and then the
condition of this was.
Was having an emotional impact on him.
Right.
So what I ended up doing was over the process of around about six five or six five or six weeks we had
a couple of conversations about how he identified himself and you know how young people can sometimes
be quite cruel.
This guy had obviously had a stroke and he was quite young.
And you've been on the receiving end of a little bit mockery at school.
So he ended up defining himself as being disabled as being some of the other boys and girls in his school
had called him things like retard and things like that heartless but he'd absorbed all this on and within
himself.
So how he was defining himself no wasn't necessarily by truth.
He was defining himself and taking on some labels and words other people were signing on to him.
So on a spiritual core level this is where his issue lay low right and has had his main issue was was
kind of confidence within himself and his ability to you know to play golf and do some things because
of how you define himself.
So emotionally he was being impacted by how he defined himself at the core.
The choices that he would make.
Well we just become a complete recluse.
He wouldn't speak to some of the people that he would wanted to speak to a young man wanted a girlfriend
or this kind of thing but he wouldn't speak to members of the opposite sex because of his little confidence.
He thought that they would think that he was this that he was smart and the little devil one is sure
there was kind of going 100 miles an hour and volitional was all about the choices that we make.
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Nine times out of ten we will base our decisions and we'll make decisions in response to who we believe
we are.
So if we believe that who we are as strong confident and fully abled unlimited by nature of course we're
not gonna have a problem making decisions on a day to day basis.
But if we believe that we are limited in some ways then of course then this is going to impact them
our ability and willingness to make the decisions that we really want to make.
But I guess what's going to determine the choices that we make nine times out of 10 is a quality of
the thoughts that we are thinking.
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The thoughts the quality of the thoughts that we are thinking ultimately determine our emotional experience
of life our emotional experience of life will cause us to respond or react to the circumstances and
the situations that we face know quite a bit of broad broader context here.
But I just want to show you how am problems to a standard in isolation.
Right.
Every issue that you've ever had in life.
And if we were to break it down and dissect it you will be been impacted.
And more than one way you know by this issue or by this problem or by this perception or by this relationship
or by this whatever you have got going on and this is a framework that in the next video I'm going to
demonstrate with with Karen we're going to look at a void that she perceives herself as having at this
stage in our life and then we're just going to simply review this perceived void through these five
different levels I'll be asking Karen how this void or issue or whatever she's got going on in our life
and there'll be something because we all have something is impacting her physically emotionally rationally
foolishly and spiritually.
Now this is just going to be a conversation.
This is just a framework.
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And it's not a framework that we use for the purpose of educating our teaching our clients but rather
as a framework that we use to help our clients become a bit more grounded in terms of an insight and
understanding that we have of themselves and how they are experiencing their own life circumstances.
Are you with me.
So I hope this makes sense if not in the next couple when I back card and I'll show you exactly what
I mean by this.
So I would refer to this as the kind of the five main levels off of human experience.
All right.
We all have this stuff going on whether we understand that whether appreciate it or whether we do it.
So we find this interesting.
I'll show you what I mean by this in the next clip.
Welcome back Karen.